For the woman that is doing the work to become a better person but is constantly fighting the annoying negative voice in her head. The voice that tríes to haunt you of your “mistakes” and downplays your successes. You’re not alone. You aren’t crazy. You’re human. Anyone who tells you they’ve never had these thoughts at some point in their life are lying to you. No one is positively perfect.
I can testify to that by sharing bits of my truth in hopes to help you move forward and heal. Everyday is an opportunity to step into the woman you are most proud of. A chance to be a better you and love on yourself more.
If you know me personally you know I am constantly pouring into others. I’m always sending my friends and sister uplifting messages or podcast/book suggestions. Basically I can be annoying and want everyone around me to win. I love to see people flourish and I genuinely get excited for people doing great things. But what about me?
This is where I’ve struggled in the past and honestly till this day that voice still tries to creep in and tell me lies. Tells me I’m not good enough. That I’ve had a hard life and I can’t catch a break. Listen, this is ALL BS. Sure, I’ve had some insecurities. Yes, I’ve had heart breaks, lost loved ones, and difficult times. But I refuse to play the victim of my story. I’m just not that type of girl and no one should be.
When I’m stuck in the mental state there’s a few things I do which I hope helps you too if you struggle with this.
- I get honest with myself. I think about what I’m currently feeling and really dig deep. I reflect on why I’m feeling this way. Is this thought worth me getting anxious about or am I just hormonal and exaggerating. LOL.
- I feed myself with positivity. I’m quick to start listening to a podcast or a self help audiobook. If I’m at work I listen to some upbeat music if I’m able to. I’ll even watch something funny or sweet online. Anything that will make me smile or laugh.
- I remove myself from the environment. If I’m at work, I’ll take a small break. On some days work can be stressful and the trigger to negative thoughts. Simply walking away from my desk for a few minutes helps clear my mind and refocus. If I’m at home and in a funk, I’ll go for a walk or drive somewhere I enjoy.
- I talk to a loved one. Sometimes just verbalizing what you’re feeling makes you feel so much better! I have my go–to people that I reach out to vent. By the end of our conversation we’ll both be uplifting each other and my mood changes. It’s important to talk to people who will be honest but are grounded and loving. Basically, don’t vent to anyone negative.
- I give myself grace. This is the most important and rewarding thing I can do for myself. I absolutely allow myself to feel, distract myself with books, talk to friends, etc. But none of that compares to simply loving and allowing myself to be who I am. To forgive myself and remind myself it’s OK to have a bad day. A bad day or moment doesn’t make me a bad person. I remind myself of everything great in my life and I instantly feel gratitude. What would you tell the younger you if she was feeling down? How would you uplift a person you love? Do that for yourself.
Remember to take care of yourself. To treat yourself with love. You are loved and you’re a blessing to this world.
– Carolina
e82e61dca26e758f47e448ab7696f8d9b20be138958f8de193